“Silence Is Golden“ goes without saying. But, so many of us hear the words, but don’t really penetrate the words. Ladies, have you ever been in a relationship, where the man you just started dating is extremely handsome with a great personality, he’s the real deal, a perfect catch, husband material?
Being proud of your second half is golden. That’s a beautiful and healthy thing. The problem comes into play when you start talking too much about your personal business and you get all excited about how you’re feeling. You feel as though you’re gonna burst if you don’t tell somebody.
Too many times the person you think is your closet or best friend is the one who will turn around and cause so much pain. They are the ones you trust the most and tell all your deepest, darkest secrets to. They are the ones who you think you know the best.
The worst thing you could ever do is to tell your best friend everything. You could be sabotaging a great relationship, without even realizing what you are doing to yourself.
Your best friend may not intentionally set out to harm you, but sometimes, because their life isn’t going the way they want it to, they may push a negative energy or vibe in your direction. Some of your friends will want you to be where they are, lonely and alone.
Think about this for a sec., have you ever had a conversation with your best friend and everything you say to them, they counteract it? for example, you may say something like, “I think I’ve found my soul mate, he treats me so good, I’m so tired because I was on the phone all night and I didn’t get much sleep, I can talk to him about anything, he really gets where I’m coming from or we are so much alike, etc.”
Then your friend may respond something like, “you don’t even know him that well to be talking about him like that, all men are dogs, just give it some time and you’ll see for yourself, he’s only nice because the relationship just started, give it some time and you’ll see what I’m talking about, common, if he is that good looking, you know other women are gonna be checking him out and dogs will play, etc.
If your friend is responding to you with comments like this, that should be a RED FLAG, telling you “SHUT THE HELL UP” and stop talking. For your own good, don’t get so caught up and excited with your current love interest that you feel the need to talk to someone who you think will share in your happiness. My advice to you, quit while you’re ahead.
There is no way that you can’t say you don’t feel the vibe or the energy that your friend is pushing, it is staring you right in the face, but you’re too caught up in your relationship and your trying to give your so-called friend the benefit of the doubt that you just keep ignoring the signs.
What’s even more of a mess is when you have to go there and talk about that three-letter word SEX. What goes on the bedroom stays in the bedroom. But Oh! No! you must go into details. Are you kidding me? That area is taboo and off limits. You’re setting yourself up for disaster and you only have yourself to blame.
Think about this for a second, your partner is HOT, and now you’re telling someone else about how he performs in the bedroom. Are you nuts? That’s a train wreck waiting to happen. That same so-called best friend who is listening and hanging on to your every single word, if given the chance, will try to jump into the sack with your significant other and sample the menu.
Silence is golden, this is a very true statement. There is nothing wrong with sharing some of the good news with a friend, but know how much to share, don’t say too much.
Sometimes your so-called friend is just lonely and wished they could have what you have. If that is really your true friend, they will never cross the line. Remember misery loves company.
Let’s, look at the positive side of this. It is a blessing in disguise, because now you know, the person you’re dating has really got your back if they have rejected the advances from your so-called best friend and tell you what your friend is trying to do behind your back, that says a lot.
Also your so-called best friend that doesn’t help you to climb ladder of happiness, but would rather watch you crawl, isn’t a friend.
Now! you’ll have to confront your so-called friend with the truth and be honest with yourself. When I say, “be honest with yourself”, I mean, you always had a feeling, but you kept doubting it. By believing what your new boyfriend is now telling you only confirms what you have been feeling inside but chose to ignore. Silence Is Golden.