STEP #1. One of the biggest mistakes a woman can make when entering a new relationship and on a first date is to talk about her ex. Leave him out of the conversation.  Your new man doesn’t want to hear boring stories about your old man. He is there to wine and dine you and only you. So, start fresh.  Out with the old, in with the new. Get it?

STEP #2. Ladies, please don’t tell him your whole life story on the first date. Get to know him, take your time.  Leave room for the imagination. Most men love a challenge, keep him guessing. Remember, there must be some attraction on your part or else you wouldn’t be out with him., right? So, don’t play too hard to get.


STEP #3. One of the worst things a woman can do on a first date is to get extremely intoxicated to the point where you could end up doing something you’re oblivious to and wake up the next morning not remembering what you did the night before.  Now depending on the guy, if he’s a real stand-up man he will NOT take advantage of the situation.

Keep in mind the reason you’re going out on a first date, is you’re getting to know each other. So, if he takes advantage of the situation unbeknownst to you, there’s no telling what lies he could fabricate. You will have no recollection of what happened because you were too inebriated to remember.

He, on the other hand, could exaggerate as much as he wants about the entire evening to his buddies and make you look like a whore or easy. Living in a world of technology, he could also do the unthinkable and take pictures, only to have them posted on social media.

So, ladies, it’s not worth the risk.  My advice to you is to always be in control.  I’m not saying you shouldn’t have fun, by all means, go out and have a great time, have a couple of drinks, but know your limit and stay within it or you might regret it in the morning.

STEP #4. Be yourself and don’t try to be someone you’re not. I’m sure the reason he asked you out in the first place was that he liked YOU not Mary, Jane or Sue, but you. So, keep it real, no pretense.

STEP #5. It’s all well and good that he paid for the meal, that’s fine, but there’s nothing wrong with offering to leave a tip, the most he will say is, “No, I got this” with a smile.  Most men love a thoughtful woman. Moreover, please don’t feel obligated. 

So, what if he paid for the meal, it doesn’t mean you have to be the dessert.  But, if both of you want to take it to the next level and are both willing participants go for it, after all, you are two consenting adults, but remember to always use protection.

For those of you who feel your cell phone is your next best friend, the last place you want to have it accompany you is around the dinner table while enjoying a romantic meal. Last time I heard a date only involved a couple, not a couple and a cell phone.

No way am I saying not to bring your cell phone with you, of course, bring it with you, but ladies leave the cell phone in your purse or handbag where it belongs.  Turn down the ringer or set it on vibrate. It doesn’t belong next to your wine glass or plate sitting on the table.

The last thing you should be doing anyway is checking your cell phone every 5 minutes.  The message you’re giving off is you’d rather be somewhere else with someone else.  That’s tacky and tired and shows no respect. How would you feel if he did that to you? I don’t think you’d like it either.

STEP #6. A first date, correct?  So, you’re getting to know him, huh?  Now, the conversation may not be that overly appetizing, but that’s OK, let’s make this work.  No need to through in the towel just yet.  A first date is kind of like a meet and greet; you’re getting to know each other.  So instead of sitting there all bored and what not. 

Find out where his interest lies.  Listen to what he has to say and don’t go staring off into space contemplating, “Why am I here? I could be home washing my hair instead” Find out what you have in common and build on that.  You might be pleasantly surprised.

STEP #7. Oh! I almost forgot, don’t go asking him, very personal questions trying to get up all in his business, no one likes that and it’s a real turn off.  Most men don’t ask a lot of questions because they don’t want to be asked too many questions. Keep the conversation general and light. Unless you’re both up to delving deep into each other business and that’s established by both parties.

Men do not like a woman that talks a lot and never shuts up; women don’t want a man who never shuts up either. He will tune you out.  Also, I don’t think you will get that second call.

STEP #8. Hey ladies! Please don’t start talking about wanting to get married, having babies or having a family with the white picket fence and all that jazz, not only is that outdated, but that will send him running to the hills and I highly doubt if he will ever come back down where you’re concerned.

STEP #9. Always dress to impressed, women fall in love with their ears and men fall in love with their eyes.  At least a good percentage of us do. Leave room for the imagination, wear something appealing that catches his eye and will allow him to say WOW! but don’t overdo it. Keep it sweet and sexy and not cheap and sleazy.


Also, ladies for God Sakes, don’t wear those brand-new shoes and figure this will be the perfect time to break them in. It isn’t fair to him that your feet are in pain and you’re uncomfortable, and your patients are running on empty because your feet are hurting.

All that does is take away from the ambiance and you having the perfect evening.  It’s not his fault that you chose to wear those cute little pumps that went perfect with your outfit but were way too tight. So, don’t blame him for the pain blame yourself.

Another thing I find very amusing is when some of you are out on a date, and you’re wearing that slamming outfit, cupping every single curve, and you’re killin it, but you’re starving to death. Why do you do this to yourself?

Then when you get to the restaurant, you order a bed of garden with little to nothing else to eat other than a glass of water.  Come on Now!!! who are you trying to fool? Yeah!! you might look good and all of that, but a girl still gotta eat.  So, do yourself a favor and dress comfortably but again look sexy.

Now for those of you, who are entirely the opposite and will order the most expensive meal on the menu, i.e., lobster, steak, you know what I’m talking about; take into consideration that your date might not be able to afford all that good stuff, so go easy on him. 

You don’t want to come across like a gold digger.  I guarantee you, most men will talk about you with his friends, and you don’t want to be the topic of the day when he’s talking smack to his friends about you.

This is only my 2 cents….

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